Happily married but from what I’ve encountered in the wild, I wouldn’t/couldn’t do anything under 28 or so. It’s a completely different worldview.
Not that worldview matters that much when having sex
Yeah, but that only lasts 90 seconds. What do you do for the rest of the day?
Cry.
Plot the downfall of the bourgeoisie
Send her home? It’s not like you are forced to spend a whole day with a hookup?
As I’ve gotten older, it’s not even just the worldview anymore, the body can look attractive but one look at the face and if the woman is young enough it’s an immediate turn-off.
Different phases of life, different priorities, and different perspectives. Someone in their 20’s is still trying to figure out what they want to do with their life. I’ve abandoned the search and am now stuck somewhere between raising my kids and trying to buy myself some free time before I die.
I also think you have to be friends with your spouse to have a successful marriage. Lucky for me, my wife is my best friend. It’s pretty difficult to build any sort of meaningful relationship with someone you have very little in common with.
Half your age plus seven.
Shit’s not hard, guys.
I don’t judge the age difference as long as they’re both adults. What two consenting adults do is up to them, it’s none of my business.
Oh, I judge, particularly the older person, but not in some moralistic way. But in a “if at 50 you can have a romantic or sexual relationship, even temporarily, with an 18-year-old, I have some unflattering views of you.”
Hey is that Oyasumi Punpun?
I couldn’t remember the name and I am amused that the search string “sad bird manga” worked.
It depends on the relative power imbalance at this point. If a 20 year old is out at bars going home with 50 year old dudes, then slay queen. If it’s 20 year old secretary with 50 year old boss, then there’s a much higher chance that the situation is fucked, though still not 100% I suppose.
Unless you’re 20.
Some US state lawmakers would disagree
A relationship between a 20 yo and a 17 yo isn’t unethical. It’s not like we magically become more mature once we turn 18.
If I recall correctly, over here once the person reaches the age of consent (16) it’s considered legally acceptable if the different is + 4 years, meaning a 20 years old couldn’t be accused of being a pedo if they were going out with a consenting 16 years old…
They just need to remember to not be idiots and not to share pictures…
depends what your looking for
i like 1999 Dodge Durango type women
Solid. Rusty. Burning oil.
I can see it.
Beat up undercarriage.
But that 5.2L V8 will just go, and go, and go some more.
Hey bb my tailgate can’t close anymore and stuff falls out sometimes. Wanna hook up?
You did age divided by 2, TIMES seven. That… dramatically changes things.
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What on earth is going on with that picture? Apparently the main source is this picture here.
Who processed it and why?
Looks like someone replaced their faces with Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt
That makes some kind of sense. Internet logic perhaps.
Ohhh hmmmmmmmmm
Before it was boring. Now i kinda wanna fap
Holy shit. They were children. These chicks were older than me back then and looked like adults.
I don’t know what the impetus is, but some people seem compelled to put face filters on pretty much everything. I saw a post a while back with a historical photo that had been processed for some reason. It’s absurd.
Nah on tinder it’s 18 to 118 for me. Keep it legal, don’t hurt anybody, have fun.
don’t hurt anybody
Gonna have to be real careful in your upper range then… Not judging, just warning 😁
Make sure the hip has already been replaced.
Because once you reach a certain age, the hips do lie
My 120 year old grandma is disappointed.
You want to avoid the 18yo, all the bots are there.
Why are we infantilizing adults? Interpersonal relationships are complex and nuanced; we can acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships without insulting the autonomy and choices of those involved. These neo-puritanical bullshit tendencies creeping in on the left needs to stop; it’s a trojan horse for the next generation of conservatives. Reject non-nuanced conservative-bate thinking.
I get what you’re saying, but often the age gap isn’tthe problem: the men are.
When a 40 year old man dates a 20 year old, often times the man is an absolutely toxic child. That’s why the relationships are bad.
If both people were actually decent then things are okay, but that ain’t the case.
I agree that the way we socially condition and, more importantly, hold men accountable are the real issues, which only reinforces my point. If the problem is men rather than age gaps, why disparage age gaps and not male behaviors instead? It’s like trying to focus on getting the blood stain out of a carpet while somebody has an open wound on their arm and continues bleeding out; it’s focusing on the wrong part of what’s wrong in the scenario.
Maybe it’s more like walking into the room, seeing three square meters of blood, then saying “holy fucking shit something is wrong”
Your misunderstanding is that people think the blood on the floor is the problem.
And you’re right: sometimes there is a perfectly good reason why the floor is covered in blood.
Absolutely. There’s a reason why 40 year olds are going after teens - they know that women their age wouldn’t put up with their bullshit but the younger women will. They’re predators through and through because healthy relationships are equal, there is no power imbalance.
Serious question, who do you think is being infantilized here?
Subtext. This meme isn’t about the image, it’s about the culture upon which it is commenting. And a large reaction to that culture is beyond discouraging of age-gap relationships, it’s prohibitive of them. This reaction wants to redefine adulthood as post 25, label anyone above 25 who shows interest in those under as automatically and inherently predatory (as opposed to potentially predatory), and in doing so severely infantilizes anyone under 25 as “incomplete” adults, as if adulthood is some kind of clear journey with a specific and obvious destination, who they deem incapable of evaluating risks and circumstances and making autonomous choices.
This reaction wants to redefine adulthood as post 25
It’s even more than that, it wants to make adulthood some kind of sliding window where the age of the older partner defines how “adult” and “capable of making decisions” we see the younger partner, and the older a person gets the more people at the lower end of the age range get excluded for them from this fictional adulthood. For example: 60 and 30 would also be seen as inappropriate.
Now it’s perfectly normal for younger people not to find much older people attractive or suitable to have a relationship with and vice versa, and they may even find the idea repulsive, but this is still a personal preference. It’s probably even the preference of the majority of people, but that does not mean we should take away the agency of adults to choose their partners when they have a different, non-conforming preference. At that point it has nothing to do anymore with protecting vulnerable people from predators, but about imposing your own preferences and dating standards on other people, and you’re quite right in calling it out for the neo-puritanical and conservative thinking that it is.
Found the older dude dating a 19 year old.
I’m 39, in a 10-year long monogamous relationship with a woman who is 35. Prior to her, my previous relationship was with a woman 6 years my elder.
Divorced? Who the hell can even afford to get married anymore…
That’s one way to lower the divorce rate.
In my experience, it doesn’t matter what you set your age or distance range to in Tinder, because you’re going to get people 10 years older or younger and a hundred miles farther away than you specify anyway.
As an actual 40 YO divorced dust that used apps for a bit, I felt weird doing 10 +/-, but I can’t imagine there are THAT many guys with such a wide range.
You’re going to be surprised at the number of young women with daddy issues.
Or people in general with the wrong age
You mean 18-99? Haven’t used tinder in ~7 years or so, but I believe there was an upper limit. Found out by trial and error that apparently some women enter their year of birth instead of their age, when I matched with someone who was allegedly 97 years old.
Sometimes women want a real man with real skills, not a 25-year-old boy living with his parents. Young healthy women are attractive. Win-win.
No. I tried. They’re 40 year old man children who are marginally better at hiding it, except these daughter fuckers won’t grow out of it.
It takes a special kind of toad to seek out a much younger spouse.
Isn’t the rule of thumb half your age plus 7?
So 27 is cool for a 40year old?
Women hit their sexual prime around 26. I doubt most 40 year old men can keep up with a 27 year old.
… Challenge accepted.
How do people deal with getting older when the hottest girls are out of your age range.
I was hoping as I get older women I’m most attracted to would get older. Seems my standards are just lowering but a 20 year is still banging.
Disclaimer: I’m old and retired. My wife is 7 years younger than me and we’ve been married 37 years.
You will always stop and look at and admire a pretty young lady. You might even think to yourself, “If I was 40 years younger!” And then immediately think to yourself “But any way”.
As you get older you will become more attracted to older women. Not because you think they are prettier than younger women, that’s biology for you. But, you will find the personality and cultural reference points of age far more compelling than plain beauty in your relationships. Turns out, shared life experiences and culture means more in the long run than the smell of bubble gum and all the drama of youth.
Is that even a serious question? It’s literally biology. Humans are in their prime between like 18 and 24 years old (just made that range up so could be +/- few years but likely close). Same concept as why a fucking tomato will look worse 4 days after you bring it home from the store. We are organic beings. Organic materials degrade. Just accept it ;-). There is more to a relationship than looks.
You may wanna bang a 20 year old when you’re 40, but would you want to date/marry a 20 year old? I certainly fucking wouldn’t.
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Well it may seem outlandish, but this is the age range that guys truly think about. At least it’s honest. I know everyone will say “I don’t,” well done for putting forth the effort to maintain a social mask of being above it all - but you’re not. In the west, we associate youth with beauty and desirability, so it’s no wonder men go after school girls (or younger). Shame, shame on them for being so human! The rest of us are above this sort of behavior!
I mean yeah you can think young girls are beautiful while also recognizing that for several reasons, dating them is a bad idea. You’re trying to completely normalize thinking only with your dick and claiming anyone who doesn’t do that is a snob. Weird.
Luckily tinder is only for finding committed relationships so nobody would ever have ANY REASON to do this.
Swipe left, swipe right, fuck your neighbors daughter, whatever as long as it’s consensual. It is nobody else’s business.
Actually what I’m trying to show is that almost all men think with their dick and all men have some attraction to teens. That’s just human nature, we try hard to pretend we DON’T have those feelings, because we’re taught it’s evil and wrong, but it’s really just normal. Not to say you should act on those feelings, I’m just saying that it’s normal to have the feelings.
You’re justifying.
Oh yeah I sure as hell am! Thanks for “getting” what I’m trying to say about you and me and everyone we know.
Explain what you mean by school.
Hoping they mean college
They mean the only kind of college they recognize as a legitimate institute of higher learning: clown college.
They’re a 9th generation legacy, see…
🤨📸
I like that reply. Best so far!
I mean, it’s the age range popular media tells men they should be thinking about.
The problem is we’re too enured with maintaining a status quo that many men never decide to think differently.
I don’t think there needs to be anything telling men to go for the age range of 19-54
You and I must be listening to different “popular” media then: https://youtu.be/fIIon1S1Das?si=6Em5XMUIGQopoe-j
