What I always do is set the mood telling her what I would like to do to her right at the moment, describing how much I like her big and round tits, that I’d like to rub, touch and feel her skin and belly, and how much I’d like to slap and grab her ass. I sometimes tell her to close her eyes and imagine what I’m telling her. It usually turns her on a lot. When I want to be quick, I just tell her to rub her nipples and go from there, she’s very sensitive. tbf she’s also my sub so it’s easier for me as she goes to subspace very quickly and never refuses my commands, so I don’t really need to do a lot to get her started. From there I do a lot of dirty talk, reminding her how sexy she is for me, being more explicit and sexual with my descriptions, and jerking off with her so she can hear my moans (they turn her on a lot, and guys, women love male moans, try it). Then I just go along with her moans and fantasies, at that point she’s on fire and it’s the one setting the rhythm while I follow her with dirty talk and descriptions. Sometimes I also give her commands on how I want her to touch herself, give her little “challenges” (like not cumming in the next 10 seconds, slapping her pussy and/or tits X times, etc), and make her go total slut and sub mode making her yell how much she wants my dick and making her bark like a dog (and when she’s extremely aroused she loves to be treated like that, so it’s a plus). Then I just go on until she’s in the verge of cumming, at which point I either torture her a bit forbidding her orgasm for some time, or I tell how I wanna fuck her very explicitly and how much I need to cum inside her, and then give her permission to cum (I’m training her to cum on command).

Being very descriptive and detailed in the last part is the key for us. It gets her going a lot and makes her cum hard. Also most of the time I give her instructions on how to touch herself so she’s directly stimulating herself sexually, so that also helps. I think having phone sex is more like helping her get aroused, and when she starts masturbating, being like a complement to her. Let her be the center of attention and think fast to adapt to what she needs at the moment to keep going. Even when you’re a dom like me, her pleasure is the most important thing, and even when you do things like making her say she’s your bitch, or barking like a dog, or yelling how much she needs your cock, it’s more to make her feel good rather than you. I’m not saying you have to neglect yourself of course, but I’m pretty sure all men have more than enough with a woman’s moans and the realization she’s feeling good bc of you to masturbate and cum. So it’s like an orchestra (lol) when you’re the conductor and she’s the instruments. Yes, you are essential for making a good symphony and are the one pulling the strings from behind, but she’s the protagonist, the melody, the art. Think of it like that and it will help you a lot. Also thanks to technology we do videocall sex most of the time so that also helps a lot, I can show her my dick and how I stroke it when she’s very aroused and that’s usually more than enough to make her extremely horny, and we both get a good show from each other. But we still do a lot of dirty talk in those occassions, and what I said applies there