not sure if “pervert” is the right term. maybe “kinkster” fits better?

anyhow, in what situation did you figure out mainstream vanilla ideas of sex or intimacy doesn’t rock your boat all the way?

  • kadu@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    10
    ·
    1 month ago

    Unfiltered childhood exposure to the internet is all I’m publicly saying about this subject.

  • oogle_b00gle@lemmynsfw.comOP
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    10
    ·
    1 month ago

    so, for me one particular instance was when my gf at the time was leaning over me while we were both sitting in bed. she gave me a bj and through mere proximity my foot started caressing here private parts. one thing led to another and while she continued eventually my big toe slid inside of her.

    it was after she’d cum when she looked at me with this hard to describe mixture of horniness, post-nut-clarity and shame that i figured sex for me is more than just pleasuring one another

  • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    10
    ·
    1 month ago

    Back in the days when Craigslist was still a thing and I was a young teenager confused about…well a lot of things, I would post ads looking to be tied up and/or heavily objectified. I had watched plenty of non-vanilla porn at that point and knew I enjoyed the themes, but the level of turned on I got by hearing how strange men wanted to use my body for their pleasure was a bit of an indication that I was a lot more submissive than I thought.

    • oogle_b00gle@lemmynsfw.comOP
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      1 month ago

      i mean… haven’t we all?

      but in what particular situation did you figure it out (if you don’t mind me asking)?

      • RepressedLemmier@lemmynsfw.com
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        3
        ·
        25 days ago

        No, we haven’t all. I discovered cumming before either mastrubation or sex. Good luck figuring out how, and the shame of the realization hit hard. Took only most of my life to turn that around.

        And yeah, I started with vore then tried furry r34, then vanilla, because I started my life ass-backwards. I progressed to asexual, rediscovered my thing for vore, and had self-hatred for it most of my life. Went for months without mastrubating sometimes.

        Holy shit, the cum, the entire nights spent making up for those months, and the sheer kinkiness after.

  • onslaught545@lemmy.zip
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    4
    ·
    1 month ago

    For me it was probably around the 10th time I got in trouble as a child for playing doctor with similarly aged neighborhood girls. Or maybe it was when i got caught watching girls gone wild with my stepsister as a preteen (not long after our parents married, only 6 months younger than me).

  • pinkpint@lemmynsfw.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    1 month ago

    I think the first time I masturbated on omegle. The first time I went on the video section I didn’t stay long, I wasn’t look for so many dicks that day, but it didn’t stop me from going back again. It was a few more times before my love of mutual masturbation got the better of me and I decided to join them.

  • Fuckery@lemmynsfw.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    1 month ago

    Since I watched Kakegurui the anime, it has awakened something within me, playing simple gambling games with a partner knowing full well that losing means total submission to the other, gives so much flavors to the games, I mean money is good and all but having a partner that consents and is willing to do stuff for your entertainment if they lose tastes so much more better than winning money, even losing still gives out the same pleasure because playing it with those terms feels like something is always at stake and so either way (winning or losing) would always result in so much fun for both parties.