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Cake day: March 10th, 2025

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  • I think you might be right from what I can gather without a video to check the body language and a longer term observation.

    Spot on, but I would personally go for slow horizontal approach to cheeks if you don’t know the cat, a lot of cats freak out about things above them, so going directly to top of head is a bit risky, and has gotten me bit before. I would offer a scent mark target first, just stick a (tucked in, hard to bite!) knuckle out for them and if they rub their cheek against it, you’re golden. After that I would move to chin and then top of head/behind ears.


  • To me it sounds like it could be what some littermates do to eachother, he’s calling you to play. Our cats will do this same thing, but to each other: Jade will first go groom Ciri’s face for a bit, perhaps a little stranglehold here, or she flops down in front of her sister, asking her to jump on top and wrestle, a lot like what you’ve described in the post. YMMV obviously, you know your cat better than a stranger online etc., but my two cents from my experience with a lot of litters in the past, I’ve seen this before many times.

    It can also be what comment above said, he could be just showing his trust to you, but since it’s such a high stakes thing, he could be a little overstimulated and doesn’t know what he actually wants, and just reacts like his instincts are telling him.




  • Exactly, I had to work through a bunch of stuff, and took 6 years in uni for BA, goal is 3 years. Then I left and worked on myself again, and went back to school for a different field at 26y, graduated at 29. Wife got her BA at 27, masters at 32 and is now working on doctorate.

    There is no one fits all path, guide or schedule for life. Do your best, fuck anyone who would sneer at your huge achievement just because it took a little more time.














  • We have it, it sucks. Especially in it’s current form, it’s discriminatory and archaic. You basically have 4 choices: go to the army, do civil service (pesudo-slave labour essentially), go to jail (usually house arrest) or try to get out of it by faking a mental illness.

    I did civil service, and nobody told me of the stigma that follows not going to the army; especially conservative people will treat you like a second class citizen, a coward, lazy, hippie or a traitor. It’s even worse if you decide to protest and go to jail instead of serving. On top of that, there’s not a lot of the service places nowadays, it cannot be a for profit company, and has to be “useful to the community” sort of thing. Most people go to schools, unemployment centers or old folk’s homes. The work I did for 364 days was in a school, and had nothing to do with my studies or interests, nor did it teach me any skills. I was mostly bored out of my mind.

    Being stuck in the army/service also delays your studies, and can make it harder for some people to continue studying afterwards due to the forced delay in between.

    If you add in how it’s incredibly discriminatory, that only males have to do it, it’s voluntary for females, and certain religious groups get a free pass, but I can’t get a free pass because of my principals or morals. I believe some promising athletes can get a free pass as well, but don’t quote me on that.

    Basically, at least in it’s current state, it’s bad. With some fundamental changes and prioritizing the wishes/principals of the individual, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I’m not a fan of my individual choice being ignored with a threat of jailtime. An opt-out model I would be fine with, but I guess that kind of doesn’t fit with your questions, as it’s not exactly mandatory at that point.

    There’s a lot more to be said, but that covers most of my main opinions briefly.