Honesty is actually the thing she appreciates the most and according to HER this is the best relationship she’s had for whatever reason i can’t understand AND she has ADHD so talking at length isn’t something she’s capable of, but we have fun together whether it’s insulting eachother or cuddling, we are two cogs that don’t fit in a machine that should not work but it does, not every relationship has to be perfect or fit your views in order to work.
I’m glad to hear that. It sounds like the bit at the end of your original comment was just a hyperbolic joke. I commented because I had had friends who have said things like that in a context where tensions in the relationship did end up escalating to the level of physical violence, which is never okay.
Since learning about what they went through, I try to be more proactive in pointing out potentially problematic stuff, because for both of my friends, what got them out of that situation was the cumulative effect of people saying “dude, are you okay? That is not something you should be experiencing”. Fortunately, in this case, it appears that this was me being overly cautious
I was at work so i had to read your previous comment again for it to properly get through, but in my previous relationship we didn’t properly talk and it was my parents that told me to get out because i looked pale and wasn’t acting right, they told me that my ex was killing me mentally, but i stayed because she got pregnant, so after a year of her parents dragging me through all kinds shit (“work”), i found myself one but it was about 1300 km away in another country, we broke up 10 months later and i met my current wife about a year and a half after that and we were both kinda on a rebound, took me a few years to realise that i basically ran away for “work” when the actual reason was i ran away because i was having some serious suicidal thoughts, so now if you don’t say it it doesn’t get resolved and that’s why it’s working when it shouldn’t.
Honesty is actually the thing she appreciates the most and according to HER this is the best relationship she’s had for whatever reason i can’t understand AND she has ADHD so talking at length isn’t something she’s capable of, but we have fun together whether it’s insulting eachother or cuddling, we are two cogs that don’t fit in a machine that should not work but it does, not every relationship has to be perfect or fit your views in order to work.
I’m glad to hear that. It sounds like the bit at the end of your original comment was just a hyperbolic joke. I commented because I had had friends who have said things like that in a context where tensions in the relationship did end up escalating to the level of physical violence, which is never okay.
Since learning about what they went through, I try to be more proactive in pointing out potentially problematic stuff, because for both of my friends, what got them out of that situation was the cumulative effect of people saying “dude, are you okay? That is not something you should be experiencing”. Fortunately, in this case, it appears that this was me being overly cautious
I was at work so i had to read your previous comment again for it to properly get through, but in my previous relationship we didn’t properly talk and it was my parents that told me to get out because i looked pale and wasn’t acting right, they told me that my ex was killing me mentally, but i stayed because she got pregnant, so after a year of her parents dragging me through all kinds shit (“work”), i found myself one but it was about 1300 km away in another country, we broke up 10 months later and i met my current wife about a year and a half after that and we were both kinda on a rebound, took me a few years to realise that i basically ran away for “work” when the actual reason was i ran away because i was having some serious suicidal thoughts, so now if you don’t say it it doesn’t get resolved and that’s why it’s working when it shouldn’t.
Also after writing all that i forgot this, overly cautious can sometimes save people’s lives.