• volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyz
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    2 days ago

    That’s moronic, not gonna lie, but I just want to say, man, being the first one in my friend group to have had a kid, it was bonkers what I was invited to, with all seriousness. Concerts, house parties, clubs,… When I pointed out I have a 3 week old baby it was “just leave it with their dad for the night!” When I told them it was a fully breastfed baby it was “oh then just bring the baby! It’ll be fun!” When I tried to point out that I am exhausted, recovering, and am using any minute that I don’t tender to the baby to sleep - as did my partner - I got “oh wow I thought they mostly sleep lol, well ok then maybe next week at that other house party at the other end of the city? It will be full of people you don’t know and it starts at 10 pm, there will be beer but you can bring some hard liquor!”

    So, to heavily play devil’s advocate, maybe these are new parents that were pressured into being cool and staying the same despite having a baby… By outsiders or by themselves.

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      2 hours ago

      I hear you and empathize, but putting them on the ground? Like, the place where people jump in excitement at concerts? I think you might be cutting them a bit too much slack tbh

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        19 hours ago

        I’m in my city’s Share&Care chat and you wouldn’t believe how many people keep asking for sound cancelling headphones for their babies because they want to go to some concert

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          19 hours ago

          Honestly, props to them. At least they’re trying to protect the kid while wanting to do something fun. It may not be the best choice around, but they’re at least trying to be somewhat smart about their choices, assuming they bail or find a babysitter if they don’t get them.

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      2 days ago

      maybe these are new parents that were pressured into being cool and staying the same despite having a baby

      And the baby is on the floor because…?

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      22 hours ago

      Would you prefer they do the opposite?

      The second I had kids, nobody invited me to anything - even things I could do with a baby like a barbecue in the park.

      “Don’t invite Troubador, he has a newborn, toddler… Who?”