if you seriously think this game was special, I have a far cry themed bridge to sell you

Bokura no Hentai is also great! I finished it up last week and it definitely stuck with me in a good way despite the heavy themes. The unofficial afterstory was pretty uh… let’s say bleak, but it did offer a bit of closure for one of the characters.

Kanojo ni Naritai Kimi to Boku Is another decent one where the MC is a trans girl. I do need to warn anyone that reads it that the author does something not great near the end which sours the entire thing for me, though some people may not see it the same way.

My condolences

Just don’t look at any comments.

escaped cuba

Never ask a gusano what they “escaped” from

This is a much better reply than that person deserved.

You’re clearly in a very communicative relationship and regardless of what happens, I feel it’s going to go well.

Ideally, this would have been better to discuss before kids

Ideally OP would have transitioned at the earliest possible moment in her life, arguing over windows of opportunity is pointless.

If OP continues to repress and her mental health drops further because of it, that’s going to affect her relationship as well. OP seems to feel that this is a good moment to come out to her wife, so I’m going to side with her over some unrelated cis people.

Here’s a suggestion: take your suggestion and shove it.

You clearly don’t understand how taxing it is to stay closeted, 5 years of repression is a hell of a time and if OP is at her limit where she NEEDS to say something, then she needs to say it. It’s not as if this kid just popped into existence out of nowhere. If OP feels this is the right time, I’m going to trust her over what some performative ally has to say.

Did I say anywhere in my comment that a trans-parent couldnt parent a kid? What the fuck are YOU talking about?

Your wife is still recovering from having a child, and being parents is already a HUGE life transition. You didn’t even give her the option of being able to walk away, instead you’ve saddled her with something that will permanently anchor you two together for better or for worse.

You said this as if OP isn’t going to help parent their child.

It’d be one thing if they had this conversation before having a child, but OP didn’t.

No no, you’re right, OP should just shut up and stayed closeted forever.

He’s

She’s*

known about it for years (see his

her*

previous post), and instead of either a.) Opening up to her prior to getting pregnant, or b.) putting off getting pregnant until he

she*

Did I say anywhere in my comment that a trans-parent couldnt parent a kid? What the fuck are YOU talking about

btw lmao

was sure about it, he

she*

instead decided to continue hiding it and robbing her of any sort of choice in the matter.

yeah fuck you OP, stay in the closet.

Just because I’m not okay with robbing someone’s spouse of any sense of agency and choice in whether they want to continue to have kids with this person (i.e. baby trapping someone), doesn’t mean I don’t support people coming out and transitioning, so you can climb all the fucking way off my back on that one. OP still needs to be honest with her about it, but she’s 2 months post birth. What she needs right now is stability.

What is this narrative that having a kid with a trans person is ROBBING someone of agency?

Did I say anywhere in my comment that a trans-parent couldnt parent a kid? What the fuck are YOU talking about?

again lmao

My wife would have had a meltdown if there wasn’t Mac and cheese in the house at 2 months post pregnancy, I can’t even begin of imagine the levels of chaos that would be introduced at this point post-pregnancy.

A trans person transitioning isn’t the burden of other people, fuck off with that noise. It doesn’t take much effort at all to support your spouse in transitioning, and OP can continue to be a good spouse and parent while transitioning.

OP’s wife has the right to not want to continue their relationship once OP comes out to them.

Nobody has said otherwise. You and the other person are the only ones assuming this.

OP has chosen to wait to come out until after having a child with their wife, and wishes to do so well before she’s recovered from the traumas of pregnancy.

I guess I must have missed the part of the trans agenda where we’re only allowed to be trans during times that are convenient for others.

You don’t see how that’s a little selfish and even feels a little like trying to “trap” their wife?

Do I really have to address this? Do you seriously not understand how absurd this statement is? HEY OP NEXT TIME YOU ‘CHOOSE’ TO BE TRANS, FIGURE YOUR SHIT OUT BEFORE GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP.

No shit? The fear of causing friction is the entire reason the OP posted this in the first place. The act of coming out to your partner is difficult and may cause issues yes, but to pretend it’s going to immediately and ALWAYS ruin your relationship/marriage is asinine.

And even if it does ruin your existing relationship, living as yourself is always preferable to hiding your true self for the sake of a relationship where you act out a role.

What the fuck are you talking about?

Do you think that somehow being a trans woman makes you ineligible to be a parent as well? That a partner transitioning is always going to put some kind of unrecoverable hurdle in a relationship?

I’m fully supportive of people coming out and being more open and honest to themselves.

No you aren’t. Fuck off LMFAO.

I’ll just echo what I said on your last post:

Say what you want from the heart. Things only get better from here.

What’s wrong with you?

You understand it’s a spectrum but you’re claiming that unless someone needs heavy support they’re faking it? Fuck any diagnosed kids then if they’re not heavily autistic.

It’s literally this attitude that keeps so many people from getting a diagnosis and receiving any help they might need. This attitude makes people think “Oh im not the perfect model *insert neurodivergency*, I don’t want to take away resources from anyone else, I’ll just cope for the rest of my life and go on living like this wondering why I feel so different than other people”

Respectfully, fuck you.

Actually fuck that you don’t deserve my respect.

The meme you’re responding to exists because of your attitude and people like you.

That’s awesome! Best of luck!

No problem!

Do you know of any gender therapists I can reach out to online, by chance?

Unfortunately no, I don’t have much experience with online therapists, however I’d start Here. (I saw above you said you’re in AL so I went ahead and filtered the results a bit.)

If cost is a concern for you, some therapists offer a sliding scale for their pricing.

I’m not entirely read up on the planned parenthood situation in 'bama but I’m assuming it’s not great, however if by luck there’s one near you, they might* offer informed consent for HRT if that’s a path that you may be interested in.

*(Again i’m not read up on the situation in AL so don’t take my word for this)

What happens next? The rest of your life. Seriously though I’m happy for you for seemingly dealing with it in a very quick and healthy way.

What are your stories about early transitioning? Are there any resources that I can access to gain information or make this easier to navigate? What can I generally expect from life, the world, the people around me? Are there any regrets you have? What do you love the most about yourself now? What keeps you going?

I can’t give my own answers for all of these but I can give a bit of input for a few of them.

Are there any resources that I can access to gain information or make this easier to navigate?

• https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en <- This is a really nice resource that’ll help answer general questions about transness and transitioning.

There’s quite a bit of trans literature that kinda helps with understanding other Trans women’s experience in the world which partially answers your next question:

What can I generally expect from life, the world, the people around me?

I’m only gonna recommend two here, but there’s vastly more available. Note that these aren’t necessary to read by any means but they’re very good books.

• My personal favorite is Nevada by Imogen Binnie. You can very easily find a free PDF around the internet with a quick google. It’s a two part story focusing on a trans girl living in new york and navigating the complications of being trans and the implications of it on relationships around you and with yourself. I’ve personally read this over again at least four times now.

• I also recommend Whipping Girl by Julia Serano. This one is more of a social analysis focusing on topics like transmisogyny, medical gatekeeping, navigation of social situations, and other trans specific issues like the myth of AGP and HSTS. Note that this book is from 2007 and feels a bit dated by today’s standards (it features language that has fallen out of favor and may be seen as slurs in today’s social environment).

My personal input:

It very much varies. Something you’ll notice (that is echoed in both books I recommended above), is that you never really stop “coming out” to people. Unfortunately there’s no single moment like in the movies, you will have to keep on doing it.

If you’re lucky you’ll surround yourself with people that accept you unconditionally. There might be people like your parents where the relationship can look rocky at a glance, but you never know how the conversation will go until you “cross that bridge” so to speak.

People in public may be rude or may ignore you, it’s a mixed bag, but take care of yourself (take this however you want to: stay protected) and stay safe.

Are there any regrets you have?

Personally I regret not starting my transition until 4 years after i had accepted internally that I was trans. I had reasons for holding off, but in hindsight, a few were silly reasons and a few were defense mechanisms and coping mechanisms. HOWEVER I will say that there’s no WRONG time to transition, it all depends on when you feel safe and comfortable.

What keeps you going?

Community, knowing that I’m not alone in this journey and experience. Knowing that there’s actually a light at the end of the dark tunnel that has been my life up to this point. Knowing that my mere existence is enough to drive bigots to madness. And the biggest for me personally: feeling for once in my life that I have a future.

Find community and build up a good support system for yourself amongst your friends and people you can trust and who love you for who you are.

There’s story skips on their online store

I guess if every ADHD symptom is continued to be downplayed as “everyone does this,” then no, it’s not exclusively an ADHD thing

Wow!! no way!!