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  • And I said, the logical structure of that feeling and/or thought is that of a false equivalence. I’m not saying it’s bad to feel like that, but that’s logically incorrect. You’re still comparing something with something distinct, even if it’s at the feeling or thought level.

    Maybe I’m the one wrong here trying to rationalize or analyze by logical means something like beliefs or feelings, but I prefer going to that extreme rather to the opposite one.





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    Yeah, I meant “they” as the past gens (aka Baby Boomers), and no, we DO NOT have the same control over our material conditions as they had. Think that while house prices, rents for services and prices for a lot more things are growing up endlessly, at the same time salaries are not only totally unchanged, but they’re going down. Take into account that real estate is mostly dominated by older people, and most CEOs and other high-ranking figures are older people too.



  • Exactly, and that’s why I’m saying that she is making a false equivalence. Although I’d say that even if it was just to “fuck someone new”, it still wouldn’t be as bad as she presents it. She can feel that way, and again, that is respectable and she is within her rights to do so, but her way of expressing it is moralizing and judgmental.




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    You’re making it, even if it’s as something you think or feel, that doesn’t change the fact that the logical structure of that reasoning is a false equivallence — killing and cannibalizing someone can’t never compare to just get someone else after you lost someone before — and if you say that it’s for some kind of respect, that seems really creepy, if I died tomorrow, I wouldn’t want my couple to be sentenced to be alone (in a romantic and sexual way) the rest of their life, even if they promised that to me.


  • Do you really think that shaming, attacking, harassing, defaming, dehumanizing, demonizing, and treating polygamous, polyamorous, or non-heterosexual people as immoral is okay? Because let me tell you, that’s what mononormativity and heteronormativity do. If you still think not, either you don’t understand these concepts at all, or you’re lying.



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    First of all, I am very sorry about your wife, I really know what it feels like to lose someone to cancer since I also lost my father to cancer, when I was 11 years old. I wish you strength and health.

    I think having as intimate and strong a bond as you can with just one other person who returns that in full is one of the most valuable things a person can have in life.

    Now to this, I’m not saying that psychological bonds or intimacy are not important or bad. What I really mean is that people demonize another equally important and good form of intimacy, physical and sexual, and for younger people, experimentation without commitments before a more serious relationship, which even correlates with a greater likelihood of being satisfied in future serious relationships (monogamous or polygamous), and less likelihood of cheating. Although polygamous AND open relationships, I think they are the best, even if on the other hand they are more difficult to have and maintain, because there is evidence that points to the fact that people are less likely to feel dissatisfied with a relationship if they can still experiment with other people.

    It feels so wrong to both her and anyone I would move on to and such a betrayal of my own personal values that it’s unthinkable to me on the level of cannibalism. When people expect me to move on my revulsion is what I expect it would be if there was a dead person laying there and those people expected me to start eating them.

    This is clearly a false equivalency fallacy. You can’t compare those things. I don’t think that getting another couple is something bad or makes everything you promised to her false. You may not like to do that, and that’s totally respectable, but criminalizing or dehumanizing it is way too much. I think that’s part of letting go, and I’m not trying to minimize your feelings nor the feelings of people that’s living something similar, but telling that it’s a form of self-care and self-healing.





  • Two things I hate about our culture: mononormativity (it’s like heteronormativity, but with monogamy instead of heterosexuality) and platonic amatonormativity (demonizing casual sex and bodily, carnal, and sexual connections in general, and divinizing an almost ascetic mental, psychological, and “spiritual” connection [whatever that may be, everyone defines it as they please], being a consequence of the cultural hegemony of Abrahamic religions (Christianity, Judaism, and Islam)).


  • I don’t know, afaik it’s something rather rare/niche, most of people I see (both IRL and in Internet) have basically almost divinized or made a cult out of platonic love, “spiritual and mental connection” and all that. Not that I hate those things, I’d like to have these too, but I’d also like to have physical connection and most of the people demonize that; sometimes somebody just wants to have a one-night, non-serious adventure or whatever you call that, but then they get treated almost like serial killers.