I’m really bad at bios.

Uhh hi I’m Shelby! I’m a trans woman from New York. My interests are fashion, photography, tech and music. So you can expect most of my posts to be about those topics. I pretty much only comment if I have something positive or constructive to say. I’m kind of a golden retriever girlie, so don’t be afraid to reach out. I’m always friendly to respectful people.

This is a kinda alt account for FRYD@sh.itjust.works I’m probably gonna migrate over to this being my main account at some point.

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Cake day: September 11th, 2026

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  • I’m homeless because the US is… a mess and my family is the opposite of helpful.

    I do post occasionally. There’s a couple posts on my old lemmy account, a few on my old reddit, and many more on my old instagram. I don’t want to link my instagram to this account because it’s semi-professional for when I do gigs and I don’t need what I write here associated with that.

    Drawing is a good option. I’ve always struggled with it personally, but I am trying again recently.

    As for the language barrier issue. Your written English isn’t perfect, but totally functional. I imagine your spoken english is similar although it’s probably slow. I’ve heard the best way to learn fluency is from talking with people though. So maybe you’ll get better quicker than you expect.

    To your final point. “Inevitable” is a word only used in hubris. If predicting the future were that easy, we’d live in a better world. Obviously I don’t know your language, but the phrase you’ve given seems to have a dual meaning. On one hand it seems to express a kinda of hopeless futility, but it also reads to me in a more positive way too. If ever said “I can’t breathe enough before I die” I would only say that to express that there’s so much I want to do and so little time to do it.

    I can’t promise things will get better. Things might get worse or just stay hard for a really long time. That’s certainly been my experience. Still I’m determined because there are things I want to experience. I want to be happy and have fun and make friends and Im not going to let the unfairness of this shitty world stop me.

    I had to go through a seriously dark period to get to this mindset, but I did get through it. I wasn’t hopeful or optimistic while I was dealing with it, but I kept going anyway.


  • I can’t say things have ever been that bad for me, but I’m in a really rough place myself right now.

    Focus on your next step. Survival is most important. Try your best to find stability and find a good outlet for all the stress you’re dealing with.

    I’m homeless right now and my next step is to make enough money for rent somewhere. My outlet is my photography, I’d lose my mind without it.

    Surely you’re dealing with a lot of trauma and you’re going to need help dealing with that. If you can get that help, then it’s worth pursuing. If not, it’s okay to put it off until you have higher priorities taken care of.

    Your life isn’t ruined. You can rebuild and find stability. You just have to keep going and never give up.