It’s Valve, who knows when they’ll stop caring again :D there’s still no announcement what’s happening next TI, how teams are going to qualify, if anything replaces the DPC. Kinda expecting the same with the ban waves.

I just want to chime in real quick, with something that’s not quite helpful (at least at first). Your fear is actually affecting your behavior towards others in your company, like your bosses. Of course I don’t know your situation, but it’s pretty likely that if you’d just confidently do everything the same as you’re doing now performance-wise, acting as if the mistakes are not a big deal and you just fix them, you’d have absolutely no problems right now.

This is not helpful in the sense that it adds another thing to worry about, but for me it was very helpful in the sense that I could actually forget about my performance and not worry about it anymore, and replace it with that other thing. And once I had figured out how to act confident in face of my mistakes, even that went away.

Kind of the same, but at this point I just utterly reject the notion of everyone having to function as a perfect cogwheel in the system. I have no trouble with my “underperforming” at all, even though it’s likely still happening.

Let them fire me if they want. I’ll likely find a new job, and if I don’t, at least in my country there are social safety nets. I’m just so over it.

I really feel for people that aren’t safe from starvation or similar, I’m glad I’m so privileged.

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Are you a cross section then?

I heard the foundry tabletop discord has some nice people.

Yeah man these people saying “definitely no interest” are wrong. It seems like interest, but it’s certainly possible that there’s none.

I got some very simple advice: just ask her out. It might not be the “perfect” advice, because some women don’t like to be asked out directly, liking keeping it ambiguous or whatever, but I personally would be annoyed by that. If the other person disagrees to a simple dinner or walk on the park or whatever, then obviously the interest is not large enough or there are some other issues I wouldn’t like to deal with.

If an answer was downvoted on NoStupidQuestions, was it too stupid or a serious reply to a joke question?

You’re ✨✨special✨✨

No

But Protego is something that you can simply have up around you whenever.

As far as I know, the Protego spell protects against physical forces. The reason no one uses projectiles (they certainly could catapult stuff around with spells as well) is probably because it’s common knowledge that it does nothing.

Obviously, JK Rowling was not a tactical mastermind.

However in the universe she created, any powerful wizard worth a damn would simply keep protective shields up all the time, especially against such simple things like “fast objects hitting them”.

Protego seems to be doing a lot with barely any effort to cast. Fred&George even create permanently enchanted clothing with Protego on it.

Blablabla tldr - less money/profits in the gaming industry.

Everything is terrible and troubled now of course. Because without growth, what even is there?

I treasure it a lot. The aesthetic, the design, the voices, the calm, everything just fits together perfectly to create something amazing that’s truly greater than its parts.

I feel like it’s a game that works best if you are a person that either doesn’t have or can let go of their expectations, and just experience.

Interesting :)

To me it sounds like there simply are certain things in your previous relationship that you really liked, even though in total it was the “right” thing to do to break up. And maybe that right now, you aren’t really getting these things that you really liked. And naturally, as humans, we always want to do better, be better, have it all. And it’s very hard, in my experience, to come to terms with the fact that it may not be possible to “have it all”. Maybe I’m completely wrong, if I am, just disregard me :D

But what is merit exactly? Who decides the criteria we use to measure it?

Maybe give this advice after you know what their answer is? :D Could certainly be good advice, but I don’t think it makes sense to shy away from trying to answer at all.

Your feelings/instincts do not care about your rational thoughts. The thoughts are something that’s tacked on afterwards. Most of the time we simply use the thoughts to explain our emotions, instead of using the thoughts as an initial source of what to do. The fact that we use thoughts to override our emotions is a relatively new thing.

Also, we as a species have very strong mate preference as soon as we have sex with someone. Our face memory is extremely good. This is obviously to ensure that whatever offspring you create has better survival chances since their parents stay together. Nature doesn’t know about contraception. Whatever triggered your pair-bond instinct assumes you might have babies right now. You as a male don’t go through pregnancy, so you have no “trigger” that tells your biological processes “we have a baby now” - it’s safe to assume since you had lots of sex, there’s likely a baby there now.

Also, the first love is always the strongest emotionally. I’m 33 now and still think about the girl I was in love with as a teenager sometimes. That’s not a rare occurrence.

I would like to ask you three things:

What did your therapist say to this?

Look deep inside you… are you lonely right now?

And last, why do you say that you don’t know if you see the rest of your life with your current partner?

Also, let me construct you a hypothetical scenario.

I’m an offlane Viper. I’m happy with my lane, I’ve killed the enemy carry 2 times already. I want to keep pushing my advantage, take the tower. My mid rotates to our safe lane, mid farm goes lost. My support leaves me to get the mid farm. I did not notice in time, and get ganked. I run, I just need someone to TP to my tower then I’ll live and we turn it around. But no one does. I could have lived if only someone TP’d, where is my support? Mid lane instead of helping me, I ping his TP and say “wtf why you no help?!” I mean, of course pushing your advantage in this lane is more important than some mid creeps, right?!

He says he needs to get farm. Wtf, my support is supposed to support me. Clearly he’s griefing me. He intentionally did not TP just to let me die. If he griefs me, I can not win this game. There’s 0 chance of any play. My support is Pugna and his name is catlover.

Of course, you did the “right play”. The farm may be more important. You probably didn’t see the gank, and maybe you also even considered getting the farm to be more important than saving your Viper. You could definitely be right.

But your offlaner thinks you griefed him. And of course, when someone griefs you, you can also start giving up, because of course there’s no chance with someone like that on your team.

Now I know this is incredibly hard: but can you tell me with absolute 100% confidence that everything you think about the game is 100% right? That you never misplay? That you never leave your offlaner when you shouldn’t have left him?

Because if you are not 100% sure that everything you do is right, how can you expect this from your teammates? How often have you misconstructed the guy just trying to play to his best ability to be intentionally griefing you? How often, really, does someone just start griefing a game without any reason? Do you really think that people don’t start out trying to win?

95% of players start griefing because they think someone else “griefed” them first. Only in 0,1% of times or so did anyone actually simply start griefing without any reason. Everyone thinks they’re right.