transcription: friendship between girls are so beautiful

  • 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    i know it’s a cute gay meme. but I was always so jealous that girls are socialised to be more open about their affection and touch.

    I’d love to cuddle with my friend, and hold hands and hug… but for guys that was a major faux pas when I was growing up.

    I wish I was a girl just for the social bonds.

    btw, in the past couple years I built a female friend group whom I adore and love and I’m terrified to lose them and never see them again. they are my found family and I don’t care that it’s full of feminine energy. I’ll miss them.

      • Seralth@piefed.seralth.com
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        3 days ago

        It’s kind of insulting to imply that a cisdude can’t want close social bonds and physical contact. And that they are an egg just for wanting it.

        We all deserve to be loved. Its not exclusive to being trans or queer.

        I know your joking but it grinds at me how casual and common people say that sort of thing entirely seriously.

        :/

        • 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
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          17 hours ago

          i took no offense of being told I might be an egg.

          I get it can get a bit gender essentialism to imply that certain traits belong to one gender and wanting those means you might be interested in the rest.

        • Maya S. Trojan@piefed.blahaj.zone
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          3 days ago

          I’m sorry, some of it comes from me having said so much to myself over and over and over… and it was because I was avoiding it. But you’re right, of course, better to have kept that to myself even though I had that feeling. I’ll keep that in mind in the future, thank you.

          • Seralth@piefed.seralth.com
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            1 day ago

            Don’t beat yourself up over it.

            It’s a common problem among a lot of oppressed and minority communities to not realize they have their own problem with casual hate. Its a byproduct of so many of the coping mechanism that are needed to deal with the hate in the first place.

            All we can do is point it out to each other and try to be better. As the saying goes hate breeds hate.

            Your doing great, and your a better person then you think. Just being able to accept and try to be the better person is hard.

            Stay safe and stay strong.

      • 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
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        4 days ago

        i think I’m cis, don’t really care that much about gender, but i like that I look a bit like Kratos. I’m harry and bald and i like that look. but also love wearing skirts sometimes and looking pretty.

        I’ll settle with being a fruity guy.

          • 🍉 DrRedOctopus 🐙🍉@lemmy.world
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            18 hours ago

            was going to joke about Scottish being my gender. but now I’m contemplating how the construct of gender and the construct of nationality are very similar. both have implied cultures, behaviours, attires, expectations, both assigned at birth, but also can change…

            Nationality is a gender!!!?!? Someone ask Judith Butler they are needed for this question

        • Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          4 days ago

          You don’t need to settle sweetie. Keep exploring and following what makes you happy. I was hairy and bald a year ago and now I am a beautiful girl. Anything is possible if you’re gay enough.

  • NickwithaC@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    There was a community on the old site for this type of stuff called Sappho And Her Friend. We need that one back.

  • Bigfishbest@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    So, friendship here is a noun in the singular form, which calls for the use of the third person singular, is, not are. Friendship between girls is so beautiful. Unless you’re referring to the girls being beautiful, in which case you’re right in both cases.

    Thank you for enjoying Pedant’s Grammar Comment.