I dunno if this is the right place for this, but I was curious. I joined Beehaw during the Great Reddit API migration, a few years ago at this point. I couldn’t put a finger on why but I wanted to join a queer-friendly space. It just seemed like a good place to be, somewhere that seemed to have goals of inclusivity and being kind to one another that I thought sounded good. I wanted to belong somewhere like this place seems to want to be.

Then, years later, in Nov of 2024 my egg absolutely shattered and I came out to myself as trans. Then I just realized this morning that the timeline is kinda funny to me. Thought I’d ask and see how common that pattern was.

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    Hold up, I’m not gay. I just got sick of reddit assholes and I don’t particularly care what you all do with your plumbing in your free time.

    I only ever wanted a space where I can freely post humorously (and apparently inappropriate) pictures of Helen Kellers’ beloved cat ‘Mittens’. The search continues it would seem.

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      21 days ago

      Beehaw isn’t just for queer folks, nobody’s gonna force you to be a lesbian or trans your gender, it’s just that Beehaw is a space that is explicitly pro-queer folks.

      I am confused as to how cat photos could be inappropriate but ok. Hope you find somewhere to call home in the fediverse :-)

  • My parents are lesbians, so I’ve been at least somewhat involve in LGBT groups since I was a young child, so not really surprising I felt some unity with the queer community regardless of whatever my own particular gender or sexuality was (which I assumed to be “technically cis” and “technically het” for the longest time). But yeah, I found myself frequently preferring queer online communities, particularly leaning towards those with lots of trans fems.

    I already realized my queerness before the reddit exodus though. Twitch was the main website where I found myself in like 95%+ queer spaces for years before realizing.

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      21 days ago

      Funny how we’re drawn together even before we know why we’re drawn together sometimes. Thanks for sharing!

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      21 days ago

      Thank you so much! The worst days recently have been better than the best days before.

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    25 days ago

    I did exactly the same! Joined Beehaw in 2023 because it seemed like a nice and cosy safe space, then my egg cracked a year later in June 2024. It’s cool to see other people who did the same!

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      25 days ago

      Apparently it’s more common a story than I originally expected, ha! Thanks for chiming in :-)