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Cake day: November 21st, 2023

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  • I just lost my dad to cancer at the end of August. My last conversation with him, I asked him questions along the lines of “Are you in pain? Are you scared? What is worrying you the most right now?” My dad was very resilient to the end. He assured me he was in no pain and was unafraid, that he mostly felt very tired. His biggest worry was that my mother would stop eating and I had promised him to make sure she eats and is taken care of. He seemed much more relieved by that news than anything else. He then started talking mostly on his own, he reminisced about the life he lived, regrets he had, things he is proud of. He started to fall asleep mid story and I let him rest not knowing he wouldn’t really wake up again. 2 days later he passed.

    If I were you I would absolutely call. You can use the questions I asked my dad if you think your dad would be receptive to them. I think at the end of life, people want a space to express how they really feel even though normally the subject of imminent death is very uncomfortable. I think, had I not asked him what was worrying him the most, he might have died holding onto that unvoiced stress. That’s just my experience though. My heart goes out to you and your family. Please take care of yourselves and my deepest condolences about your father.




  • Oh absolutely true about smx pads being expensive. I got mine both 2nd hand from fb marketplace at a bit of a discount.

    Outfox just released a new major update that fixes a lot of things but I would say they still have a good amount of work to do. They’re trying really hard to modernize stepmania and so far they have some impressive results. For me I like that they support much higher frame rates than stepmania which pairs well with my 144hz monitor.

    For my smx pads I did make custom arrows that change when pressed. I didn’t do any of the fancy gif ones but they’re not hard to make/use. They have software that you can use to edit the pad’s LEDs and the underglow.

    Probably the best feature of the smx pads is being able to set custom ranges for sensor sensitivity. I can basically control the definition of an arrow press which is pretty handy