I mean, on various scales that’s what everybody does.
Yep, everyone has to make adaptations, compromises and has to deal with things that are not ideal. However, this is often easier for neurotypicals than it is for neurodivergent and often on a less frequent basis. As in all things both have to make adjustments and both need to understand that the others have needs. The art is in finding what works for you, what does allow you to live your life in the best quality while limiting the impact on other peoples needs. Goes for everyone neurotypical or not.
What do I need to hide about myself?
I don’t know how much of it has to do with being on the spectrum and how much of it has to do with people just being extremely judgy but a lot of things are tucked away until someone gets to know us. It also doesn’t at all help that in our experience, people have used information against us to get us in trouble.
As a result, we don’t discuss hobbies, even “normal” ones. Can’t talk about drawing because we’re furries and people are still weird about that. Can’t talk about hiking or nature stuff because it would lead to discussions of naturism/nudism which again, people are still weird about. Aside from hobbies, discussing being plural and trans is completely off the table unless we’re 1000% sure the other party isn’t going to be an asshole about it. - Phoebe (it/its)
I have a different problem, I’ve spent so many years adjusting myself so aggressively that sometimes it’s hard to tell who “I” am anymore.
I am no longer me, just an assortment of masking techniques in a trenchcoat.
