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Cake day: February 22nd, 2026
  • chaotic_ugly@lemmy.ziptoPeople Twitter@sh.itjust.works•Making grades meaningless so that everyone advances is doing a disservice to kids' education.
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    23 days ago

    It seems like there’s almost certainly a confounding variable here: the kids who are likely to engage in criminality are also the ones most likely to do poorly in school, skip classes, and be held back.

    You’re conclusion doesn’t follow. Case in point: kids who are kicked out of school are more likely to become criminals because they are children and have potentially lost the only thing remaining in their lives that kept them on any path of any kind. And they don’t have to start dealing drugs and robbing people with all the extra time they have. A kid who has dropped out or been expelled can still be charged with truancy in most jurisdictions, and their parents charged with the same crime and fined (up to $1,000 in many places). An underage child can be taken from their parents based on truancy violations alone. Then there’s loitering, trespassing, panhandling, and a whole mess of other non-violent offenses that give a high school-aged child a criminal record.

    A person isn’t a criminal until they’ve committed a crime. They aren’t a convict until they’ve been found guilty of crime. Most of the kids being expelled, suspended, sent to Alternative Learning “SuperMAX” Centers are non-violent offenders. They are put out because they can’t behave.

    The argument from here is often that we have to put the undesirables somewhere. After all, it’s not fair to sacrifice the education of the other, well-behaved students. I agree. I also assume that most people would want to help these children. On that assumption, I’ll finish this post with two bits of info:

    • COPS In Schools (CIS) was created after the Columbine shootings. The grant appropriated $750-million to hiring police offers (School Resource Officers or SROs) for placement in schools. Despite their fancy title, these are police officers and they can and do, at a frightening rate, arrest children.
    • In 2022, a bipartisan bill, the 2022 Bipartisan Safe Communities Act, was enacted. It granted $1-billion dollars to the nationwide development of mental health resources (counselors, social workers, programs) in schools, and the entire country rejoiced. In 2024, the Trump admin cut the grant because of DEI.

    We’ve chosen to police children instead of help them.

  • chaotic_ugly@lemmy.ziptoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Unacceptable but trueEnglish
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    23 days ago

    What you’re saying seems obvious but I don’t think it’s as simple as that. However, @stepan@lemmy.cafe said “somehow manage to ignore it”. I don’t think anyone ignores trauma in the way this implies. Unaddressed trauma is a ticking time bomb, period.

    Trauma comes in all shapes and sizes. When you get into the weeds, the word actually becomes useless on its own. What becomes important is the type, source, and severity of the trauma. When comparing one group to another, circumstances play just as large of a role. For example:

    Neurodivergents are much less likely to have romantic relationships, and the odds are even worse of them having children. Thus, they experience trauma related to rejection, loneliness, shame and unfulfilled evolutionary drives (among other things) at a much higher rate than neurotypicals. However, they experience the trauma of miscarriage, abortion, loss of a child, divorce, death of a spouse, and spousal abuse at a much lower rate than neurotypicals.

    Are there a whole slew of things unique to neurodivergents that are compounded by societal or cultural incompatibilities (bullying, social rejection, invalidation, etc.) that neurotypicals will likely never understand? Absolutely. Do neurodivergents have much higher rates of suicide in adulthood than neurotypicals? Yes. Do these have anything to do with whether or not neurotypicals are seemingly better at getting-by because they ignore their trauma? No. They’re better at getting-by because the world is built for them. But that doesn’t mean they don’t live in a prison of their own.

  • chaotic_ugly@lemmy.ziptoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Unacceptable but trueEnglish
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    23 days ago

    No offense but this is a very self-centered and immature viewpoint. Trauma is a fact of human existence. Just because the world is designed for neurotypicals doesn’t mean the world isn’t still traumatic for them. Case in point: trauma for physical assault, sexual abuse, loss of a loved one, severe injury, cancer, losing a job (and the avalanche that can start).

    None of us know what goes on behind closed doors.

  • chaotic_ugly@lemmy.ziptoMemes@sopuli.xyz•seize the means of burger production
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    27 days ago

    There was a burger place in my town that was owned and operated by a bunch of women who called themselves a lesbian collective. It was a great hang and the burgers were very, very good.

    They basically operated on this sentiment. If you were a dick, you were out. If you thought they were being dicks, you either adjusted your attitude or went hungry. Dead simple, and it worked. They were thriving.

    And I don’t mean to make it sound like Patrick Swayze was working the door. It was the exact opposite. Good people running a good establishment serving good food who didn’t take shit off assholes. It’s surprising how much better a place feels for the customers when the employees get to have their dignity.

    Unfortunately, they closed during COVID like most of the mom & pops around here. I miss it so much.

  • chaotic_ugly@lemmy.ziptoPrivacy@lemmy.ml•Dear Meta Smart Glasses Wearers: You’re Being Watched, Too
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    1 month ago

    Dear smart glasses wearers,

    You’re colossal pieces of shit. And dumb as a bag of socks, morons who are paying companies for the privilege of spying on strangers without their consent. You’re helping to enable a world where privacy literally doesn’t exist and every public moment of every person’s life, whether they want to participate or not, is being mined and monetized by billionaires.

    You are lower than pond scum. You’re the shit under the back of the toilet bowl that has never been cleaned. You are actually stupid. Like, actually braindead. You are paying actual money to be exploited. At least Facebook and Instagram are free. Seriously, what kind of dumbass would pay to have Mark Zuckerberg sit on their face all day? Fucking idiots. 🤣