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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • Two weeks ago, I was saying this guy was desperate for an off-ramp for this war. I really thought that there were other options that made sense from the perspective of saving face and making a show of it.

    I did not expect it to be “surrender completely, pay hush money, declare undisputed victory”.

    BUT I SHOULD HAVE.

    After all this time it still seems preposterous that someone so stupid and utterly incompetent could be holding the levers of power after all of this. It is so beyond belief it is amazing.


  • I’m alright.

    It took a lot of work to get here, though. People usually act less than friendly toward me, and it took me a long time to understand that it’s because of a vibes thing that I can’t really do much about.

    It would be nice if I could find people who try to do better than surface-level judgments, but I’m not going to let others opinions and behaviour toward me affect my self esteem anymore.




  • not really sure this is an apology at all.

    This is more like a story about how your coach has also criticized your communication skills, but it seems like he did that for different reasons. I think he kind of sucks in that story, because he is literally a coach and should be giving you helpful, actionable feedback instead of the nebulous disapproval. Your friend, is a different situation and I don’t think you should confuse what your coach has said with what your friend has said.

    Try to think about why you are apologizing. Is it because you feel bad about the situation? Is it because you want to ‘fix a problem’?

    Your friend has expressed to you useful feedback on why they feel like they do, and what you’ve written kind of proves their point a bit.






  • TerdFerguson@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    2 months ago

    Yeah I didn’t say that, and you’re kind of demonstrating my point.

    How about this: I actually really enjoy it and just cant accept the convoluted logic to understand that for myself.

    Now you’re right! Just like you want to believe.






  • TerdFerguson@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    2 months ago

    Autism, bro.

    I am capable talking about whatever you define as small talk, but its not enjoyable for either of us if I do. Like I said, I’m there for real problems or philosophical musings for deep issues of life… and the infodump process is enjoyable for me, but that is NOT small talk.




  • TerdFerguson@lemmy.worldtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    2 months ago

    fucking hate it. I’m here for the real depth of humanity, or to transmit and receive infodumping.

    The rest of it is exhausting. Imagine if you had to manually discard every piece of meaningless information you had to listen to in small talk. I have to do that. It’s annoying at the very least, and when you have to be in the room with people who LOVE small talk it’s a nightmare.